How To Get Back With Your Ex Girlfriend

Hey guys, Tyler here.  I’ve been getting a lot of feedback asking for something that guys can use RIGHT NOW to start getting their ex girlfriends back, so I’ve spent the last few days going over all of the major guides on the market trying to figure out which one would get the best results.  After going through all the material, both Linsey and I agree that the best choice for a guy looking to get back with his ex girlfriend would be The Magic of Making Up by T W Jackson.

Whereas a lot of the other guides focused on quick fix solutions that don’t really address the problems that caused the breakup or strengthen the relationship, The Magic of Making Up provides you with a comprehensive, fully-scheduled action plan that takes you by the hand from the day of the breakup all the way until the moment your ex girlfriend is back in your arms.

One of the major advantages that this guide had over any of the others is that it covers every possible contingency.  As an example, one of the most intimidating steps in the reunion process is meeting your ex for the first time after breaking up.  This is covered in incredible detail.  Jackson covers what to say, when to say it, and what to do if she’s not willing to talk.  This is just one example, but this level of detail and protection against the “what ifs” reaches across the entire system.  The guide has the following sections:

• Understanding The Breakup
• Getting Your Head On Straight
• Assessing Your Relationship
• Working The Detailed Action Plan

In addition to this, Jackson provides you with a number of mental strategies to keep you in good shape to get past the pain of the breakup and keep moving towards getting your ex back.  The most important thing to note here is that Jackson does not waste time with sneaky little tactics that only work in the short term.  The guide is 100% focused on making sure that you get your ex girlfriend back and create the best relationship you’ve ever had.

The Magic of Making Up provides you with a detailed, comprehensive plan that you can use starting RIGHT NOW to get on the path to getting your ex girlfriend back.  If that sounds like what you’re looking for, here’s what I want you to do.  Click the link below, and read what Jackson has to say.  If you like what he’s offering, grab a copy of The Magic of Making Up, it’s 100% guaranteed and if you don’t have your girlfriend back in 60 days, you get your money back.  Make sure to drop me a comment to let me know when you get back with your ex girlfriend!

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So you keep on saying “I want my ex girlfriend back!” to anyone who will listen and some that won’t, right?  Here’s my question for you… Are you acting like it?  Here’s what I mean by that.

You may feel like your actions convey a desire to have your ex girlfriend back in your life.  For example, a lot of guys think that by constantly calling their ex, writing them letters, email, texts, showing up at their work, home, or school, etc. is actually going to help their cause.  How could their ex girlfriend not be touched by their efforts to get her back, right?  Wrong.  This conveys only 2 things.  One, you’re annoyingly desperate, and two, you don’t respect why the relationship ended in the first place.

You need to man up and realize that this breakup is not going to be resolved with a simple phone call or a love letter, and the last thing she wants right now is you barging into her personal life when she’s trying to sort out her feelings.  You have to accept that regardless of who ended it and why, you’re no longer a part of her personal life, for the moment anyway.

So, now that you know what NOT to do, what should you focus your time and energy on?  This is simple.  You’ll come to realize that it takes 2 people to form a relationship, which means that whether you sent her packing because of her faults or she shipped you out because of yours, you’ve got some work to do.  I expanded this in my post on How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back – Taking Responsibility, so if you need a good anchor, start there.

I will be expanding on this more in future blog posts.  If you truly want to get back with your ex girlfriend, you’ll come to realize that this process is a lot less about convincing her that she should give you another chance, and a lot more about becoming the kind of man that she would choose to date without being convinced.  We’ll get you there.

- Tyler

PS – If you’re looking for the fastest, clearest guide on how to get back with your ex girlfriend, check out my Magic of Making Up review and see if it sounds right for you.

I think it’s safe to assume that if you’re still reading this site, you’re trying to figure out how to get back with your ex girlfriend.  You may be feeling lost and looking for a starting point, or maybe you’re angry at her, yourself, and damn near everyone else around.  Fair enough.  Either way, the first step to get your ex back is to sort the whole situation out mentally.

Regardless of who chose to end the relationship or what reasons were behind it, it’s human nature to create a mental story of what happened that puts yourself in a favorable light and makes the other person the bad guy.  Now, you may know that you love your ex girlfriend and want her back with all your heart, but if your subconscious is trying to paint her as the villain, you’re going to unwittingly sabotage your own efforts to get her back.

Here’s what I want you to do.  Go over the incident that led to your breakup again in your head, and find 3 things that you think were her fault.  It can be anything, body language, tone of voice, something she said, whatever.  Once you’ve got your 3 things, I want you to think of one thing you could have done to either change what she did, or avoid taking it personally and escalating the decision.  Here’s a sample list, made from a fight that Linsey and I had last week over the dishes, again…

1. She immediately took a defensive posture – Instead of letting that set me off, I could have taken a second to remember that the only reason she’s assuming that stance automatically is due to my previous reactions when she’s brought this particular issue up.
2. She referred to me as lazy – Instead of flashing back to high school and my mother’s nagging voice, my memories should have been focused on this past week… The week that I’ve spent catching up on 30 Rock and Dexter while Linsey’s been making dinner AND doing the dishes.  Hmm… if the shoe fits…
3. “All I need is half an hour, is that really so much to ask?” – Uh, yeah, when you expect me to just drop what I’m doing and leap at your beck and call, it is.  Except, I wasn’t really doing anything important, and I just kind of reacted and let the argument escalate instead of calmly letting her know I’d be there in 5 or 10 minutes to help out.

I’m not telling you that you need to be a spineless wimp and relegate yourself to a life of servitude to get your ex back.  Obviously you have to dig in your heels sometimes.  Here’s the thing though.  Women are creatures of emotion, and really, they just want to be understood, loved, and appreciated. On the surface, Linsey was asking me to help her out with the dishes.  But what she was really asking for was for me to recognize how much she had been spoiling me, and give her some token gesture of my appreciation.

I’m willing to bet that the fight that ended your relationship probably had an emotional undercurrent that you weren’t aware of until it was too late.  Go ahead and do the exercise, try to see things from your ex girlfriend’s point of view, and see if it doesn’t change your outlook on the situation a bit.

Understand that a lot of the time, she speaks a different language than you.  Do your best to figure out the translation and approach it from there, and you’ll get your ex back in no time.  I’ve got more tips on how to get back with your ex girlfriend coming down the pipeline, so stay tuned.

- Tyler