So you keep on saying “I want my ex girlfriend back!” to anyone who will listen and some that won’t, right? Here’s my question for you… Are you acting like it? Here’s what I mean by that.
You may feel like your actions convey a desire to have your ex girlfriend back in your life. For example, a lot of guys think that by constantly calling their ex, writing them letters, email, texts, showing up at their work, home, or school, etc. is actually going to help their cause. How could their ex girlfriend not be touched by their efforts to get her back, right? Wrong. This conveys only 2 things. One, you’re annoyingly desperate, and two, you don’t respect why the relationship ended in the first place.
You need to man up and realize that this breakup is not going to be resolved with a simple phone call or a love letter, and the last thing she wants right now is you barging into her personal life when she’s trying to sort out her feelings. You have to accept that regardless of who ended it and why, you’re no longer a part of her personal life, for the moment anyway.
So, now that you know what NOT to do, what should you focus your time and energy on? This is simple. You’ll come to realize that it takes 2 people to form a relationship, which means that whether you sent her packing because of her faults or she shipped you out because of yours, you’ve got some work to do. I expanded this in my post on How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back – Taking Responsibility, so if you need a good anchor, start there.
I will be expanding on this more in future blog posts. If you truly want to get back with your ex girlfriend, you’ll come to realize that this process is a lot less about convincing her that she should give you another chance, and a lot more about becoming the kind of man that she would choose to date without being convinced. We’ll get you there.
- Tyler
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8. November 2009
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